The First Four Minutes When do people decide&39;whether or not th ey want to become friend

The First Four Minutes

When do people decide&39;whether or not th ey want to become friends？ During their first four mi-nutes together, according to a book by Dr. Leonard Zunin. In his book, 6&39;Contact : The first four mi-nutes," he offers this advice to anyone interested in starting new friendships :_____ (46)A lot of people&39;s whole lives would change if they did just that.

You may have noticed that average person does not give his undivided attention to someone he as just met. ______(47)If anyone has ever done this to you, you probably did not like him very much.

When we are introduced to new people, the author suggests, we should try to appear friendly and self-confident. In general, he says, "People like people who like themselves. "

On the other hand, we should not make the othen person think we are too sure of ourselves. It is important to appear interested and sympathetic, realizing that the other person has his won needs, fears, and hopes.

Hearing such advice, one might say, "But I&39;m not a friendly, self-confident person. That&39;s not my nature. It would be dishonest for me to at that way. "_____ (48)We can become accustomed to any changes we choose to make in our personality. "It is like getting used to a new car. It may be unfamiliar at first, but it goes much better than the old one. "

But isn&39;t it dishonest to give the appearance of friendly self-confidence when we don&39;t actually feel that way？ Perhaps, but according to Dr. Zunin, "total honest" is not always good for social relation- ships, especially during the first few minutes of contact. There is a time for everything, and a certain amount of play-acting may be best for the first few minutes of contact with a stranger. That is not the time to complain about one&39;s health or to mention faults one finds in other people. It is not the time to tell the whole truth about one&39;s opinions and impressions.________ (49) For a husband and wife or a parent and child, problems often arise during their first four minutes together after they have been apart. Dr. Zunin suggests that these first few minutes together be treated with care. If there are unpleasant matters to be discussed, they should be dealt with later.

With The author says that interpersonal relations should be taught as a required course in every school, along reading, writing, and mathematics. ____________ (50)that is at least as important as how much we know.

A. In reply, Dr. Zunin would claim that a little practice can help us feel comfortable about chan- ging our social habits.

B. Much of what has been said about strangers also applies to relationships with family members and friends.

C. In his opinion, success in life depends mainly on how we get along with other people.

D. Every time you meet someone in a social situation, give him your undivided attention for four minutes.

E. He keeps looking over the other person&39;s shoulder, as if hoping to find someone more interest- ing in another part of the room.

F. He is eager to make friends with everyone.